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Ep. 26 –“I Couldn’t Scream Out”: A Non-Consented Cesarean | Jennifer Smith

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In this emotional episode, New Mexico mom Jennifer Smith describes having a Cesarean without consent after medical staff ignored her decision to have a vaginal birth rather than repeat surgery, and her trauma afterwards.

“I’m numb from the waist down and I have no idea what they’re doing to my lower body. I’m just this object lying on a table for them to cut up. And they don’t care. And I can’t scream out. Because I don’t think anybody’s going to listen to me. And I’m scared… I’m trying to stay awake.

And I remember it was awful because the whole time in my head–and I can’t scream out and I was so frustrated because I can’t scream out–I’m sitting there going, ‘I don’t want to do this I don’t want to do this I don’t want to do this, it’s gonna be okay it’s gonna be okay it’s gonna be okay…’

And I remember as this doctor’s cutting me up, Dr. R, he’s having a personal conversation with Dr. P about the Olympic male gymnast who broke his tibia.

And I’m sitting there thinking, I’m not even here. Like I’m not even here. It doesn’t even matter.

I remember just trying to stay awake enough to hear my baby cry because I wanted to make sure he was okay.”

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“She’s Screaming Stop”: Forced Procedures Are Assault

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It finally happened… I’ve heard many stories of a nurse or doctor not stopping a vaginal exam even when the mom is yelling stop. But it never happened to me until now, almost six years of doula-ing. The Dad wasn’t nearby enough to act fast, so I did. Frankly after all these years there’s little that can force me outside of my doula role and speak for a client aggressively. I’ve gotten pretty creative to work around having to do that. But when I have a client who’s a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and you’re shoving your hand in her even harder after she’s screaming stop – I’m going to cross the line right over too. I raised my voice, but didn’t yell. And I said, “she said stop.” The nurse said “I have to…” I interrupted and said “she said stop, take your hand out of her vagina right now, she said stop!” The nurse complied but was so angry with me she told me I have to leave. Thankfully, the Dad pipped up and said “no you leave.” In the past a situation like this would have had my heart racing and made me very afraid. But I’m grateful for the experiences I’ve had because I was able to calmly go over to the nurse station afterwards and say to her, “hey I want to make sure we’re okay can we please talk this out.” Of course the nurse was still blowing smoke out of her ears and not wanting to talk to me. But I was still able to explain this mom is a survivor and she asked me to protect her from further trauma. The nurse said, “it doesn’t matter you don’t act like that in a hospital.” And I just reiterated, “but she said stop.” Thankfully, the rest of our experience there was pleasant and I believe the nurses were even over compensating with how sweet they were for this first nurse experience. My client went on to overcome a very typical survivor-type apprehension with pressure and second stage, and I believe it brought healing to see her push through fear and still birth her baby without anesthesia or an epidural – the way she wanted.”

What you’ve just read is an account by a doula about a birth she attended in December 2018, originally posted in a private group for doulas and shared with permission here.  I would like to point out a few things about this story.

1. This is normalized assault and battery, also known as “obstetric violence.”

Obstetric violence is normalized mistreatment of women in childbirth, which this story describes.  There is no recognition here of the birthing woman’s human or legal rights over her body (to say, “No” to any kind of touch) or her healthcare (to receive full information about the risks and potential benefits of the exam and make a choice whether to allow it or not).

It is clear from the doula’s story that the nurse’s behavior was normal for her.  When the doula pointed out the person with the hand in her vagina was saying, “Stop,” the nurse replied with, “I have to.”  The nurse was angry in that moment and afterwards.  The nurse clearly believed that her professional duty to make this assessment overrode the woman’s consent, and stopped only when the doula insisted.

On the original thread, I stopped counting after 20 replies from doulas saying, “This happened to me,” or, “This happened to my client.”  They described everything from a provider about to do a non-consented vaginal exam and stopping when requested, to women screaming and clawing away from the provider and being held down as they were forcibly subjected to these exams.  I share these anecdotes here without specific permission only because they are not unique–I have spoken with countless women who have described these exact same scenarios.  (See “Letter to an Obstetrician: Forced Vaginal Procedures are Unethical, Traumatic”)  I have reached out to hospitals and helped women reach out to their hospitals following forced cervical exams and membranes strips, to be universally dismissed by hospital representatives who–wrongly–maintain they do not need women’s consent for procedures during birth, and do not believe women have the right to revoke consent once it is given.  (See “Being Admitted to the Hospital or Signing Consent Forms is NOT Implied Consent”)

Contrary to what these providers and administrators believe, everyone has the right to say, “No,” in Labor & Delivery.  This is a human and legal right.  The national obstetricians’ group reminded its members of this in its 2016 ethics committee opinion “Refusal of Medically Recommended Treatment During Pregnancy,” which included this statement: “Pregnancy is not an exception to the principle that a decisionally capable patient has the right to refuse treatment, even treatment needed to maintain life.”

2.  This is a sexual assault for this woman.

A sexual assault survivor is screaming stop while someone forces their hand in her vagina.  This is sexual assault.  It does not matter to the person having the hand forced in her vagina that the context is a medical one. It is her body, and it is being violated by someone who is not listening to her scream, “Stop!”

Whether someone is a survivor of sexual abuse/assault or not, this could feel like a sexual assault.  (See the video for “Birthrape and the Doula”)

3. Note this sentence from the nurse: “You don’t act like that in a hospital.”

The nurse is not talking about her own assault on a survivor, but about the doula speaking up to stop it.  She is chastising the doula for stepping out of the hierarchy that puts the birthing person and doula at the bottom, and the care providers higher up.  This nurse felt empowered to first assault a patient in full view of her husband and support person, and then to instruct the support person (the doula) to leave the room and abandon her client.  It seems that in her view, that IS how you act in a hospital.  To challenge an assault on a patient is how you do NOT act in a hospital.  Again, it is clear that the nurse’s behavior is normal and acceptable for her.

4.  Providers can be well-meaning and caring, and still traumatize a patient.

A provider may genuinely think he or she is being helpful by completing an assessment that they see as valuable; they may believe the procedure is necessary for the patient’s own good; they may be coming from a place of concern.

Unfortunately, good intentions don’t prevent the traumatic effects of assault.  Intent and impact can be very different things–especially on someone who is a survivor of a previous assault.

It can be difficult and emotional, even traumatizing, for providers with good intentions, who believe they are helping people, to realize their actions have traumatized a patient. This realization–that a certain “help” is actually a “harm”–can trigger anger and outrage as well as guilt and grief.

Those of us who have the capacity to do so must make space for the fact that most providers are trained within a system that incentivizes dehumanization.  (See “Physician Trauma: A Doctor Answers, ‘Why Do We Sometimes Do Terrible Things?'”) They are confused and reactive when confronted with something that challenges a belief system in which they have invested their professional lives, money, and identity.  We need to continue having conversations about how we can change this system and how providers can recover their humanity.

5. This is an empowered doula who knows her client’s rights.

This doula was able to confidently stand with her client because she knew her client’s rights.  I will admit that I got a tear in my eye when the doula told me that she knew this was assault because “of people like you.  You’re the reason I can verbalize things I didn’t know there are words for–now I can protect others by calling assault what it is!”  This is why I do what I do at Birth Monopoly.

Because she was empowered, the doula was calm in the moment.  She followed up afterwards to communicate further with the nurse for a teaching moment.  She describes the rest of their experience there as “pleasant” and “sweet” and I will bet this incident caused some behind-the-scenes chatter in Labor & Delivery.  That is a wonderful thing.

On behalf of birthing people and sexual assault survivors everywhere, I want to thank this doula for her calm, strong advocacy in this moment.  She ran an intervention that may have prevented a great deal of trauma to her client.  She made space for the partner to speak up for his wife when he told the abusive nurse to leave the room.  This is a great example of a professional stepping into her role as a valued member of the birth team, putting her client’s needs front and center, and breaking a pattern of abuse that will have ripple effects for every person involved.

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“One Year Ago Today”: An Origin Story

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I went into labor just before dawn on a Sunday morning.

Almost immediately, my contractions were too close together for me to track.  I spent some time in deep concentration (between vomiting spells and position changes) until I was sure that it was time to go to the hospital.  My doula wasn’t so convinced, so we agreed to go straight to my midwife’s office instead, just across the street from the hospital. Sure enough, I was almost 7 cm dilated—and when my water broke all over the exam table, I’d only been in labor a little over six hours.

At the hospital, I labored silently in a birthing tub, watching little flash dreams in my head and worrying that my skin was getting pruny.  I loved how the tub gave me space to be alone, a little distance from the concerned and kind faces of my midwife, doula, and faithful sister-in-law.  I decided I was going to give birth in the tub, even though I wasn’t “supposed” to. I thought with a grim little smile as I tentatively pushed, I’ll just say it was an accident.

And then—suddenly I realized I couldn’t possibly push out a baby.  How on earth was this giant belly going to be relieved through that tiny canal?  No, it didn’t make sense. Back out of the tub I came. As I leaned against the hospital bed asking for an epidural, I felt as if my brain were splitting in half.  One side said, “I hate this! I’m not doing it! It hurts too much and I refuse to do this any more!” The other side said, “There’s no going back. There’s no way out of this except through it.  You must do this.” And my doula said, “You are ready to quit? Ah. It’s time to push.”

Henry arrived about 45 minutes later.  I remember clasping his warm, slippery body with my hands to bring him to my stomach—his cord was too short to go any further.  I cut the cord a few moments later, and he was placed on my chest. I lay there in shock, unmedicated but stunned, unable to process what had just happened.  Ten hours earlier, I’d been sleeping peacefully on my sofa under the glow of the Christmas tree.

Something else happened that day; there was another birth.

It was the birth of a personal mission to effect a change in the way pregnant and birthing women are treated—both medically and as human beings.

You see, just the day before, another midwife–my first one–had called to say that I needed to come in that evening for an artificial induction of labor.  I was getting too close to 42 weeks for her comfort, and even though I technically should have had another day, the hospital’s only opening was that night. Plus, her shift was ending.  Who knew what would happen to us if she weren’t there?

It’s hard to explain all of the thoughts and feelings this triggered in me.  I knew a medical induction in a first-time mom doubles her chances of a c-section, with all the associated risks of harm to her and her baby, and I didn’t feel like we’d tried hard enough to exhaust the alternatives yet.  I was devastated that I wasn’t even going to get the chance to try for the natural birth I’d hoped for, but I was confused, too. I felt rushed and pressured, even though there was no emergency. Something wasn’t right, but I wasn’t sure what.

Thanks to what I can only call the magic of Christmas, I found another provider that day who was willing to see me for a second opinion.  She treated me gently and expertly, and then she agreed to take me on as a patient—both of us knowing that I was going to have a baby one way or another within the next 48 hours.  She did something no one else had yet done: she laid out my options—all of my options; she explained the benefits and risks in detail; and she said, “Whatever you decide, and however long it takes, I will be there.”  And she was, the very next afternoon.

Baby Henry

Every birthing person in America deserves that kind of care and that kind of respect.

No one should have to choose between their baby and their provider.  I shudder to think about what might have happened had I gone in for that induction, with all the possible complications, and knowing full well the #1 priority in that Labor & Delivery room wasn’t me or my baby.  In finding a provider at the last minute who did prioritize us and practiced evidence-based medicine, I got lucky.  Too many women don’t.

In the one year since that day, I’ve joined the national leadership team for Improving Birth and the committee working to bring the global Human Rights in Childbirth campaign to the U.S.  Committing to this cause is one of the easiest decisions I’ve ever made. It’s an equation of right and wrong.

It is wrong to gamble with the well-being of mothers and babies, because of outdated, provider-centered, defensive medicine.  It is wrong for a critical bodily process to be treated as a commodity and something to be forced into bankers’ hours.  It is wrong for pregnant women to be handled like cows in a factory farm and not like the individuals they are.

It is right for pregnant women to be respected as the final decision-makers on their care and the care of their babies, for that care to be based solidly on proven, research-based practices, and for them to be given full, accurate, unbiased information so that they can make those decisions.  It is right for their bodies to be treated with dignity during this mentally and emotionally charged process.

Until what’s wrong is made right, I will be advocating for a new standard of evidence-based maternity care, supported by the basic human right of a woman to decide how and where she gives birth.  All thanks to the sweet little boy born one year ago today—the little spark that ignited a flame.

This piece was originally published in December 2012, written for Improving Birth during my time there as vice president.  The text has been slightly edited for publication today. – Cristen

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Ep. 27 –“As a Doula, I Felt Like a Witness to Rape”| Kirsten Clark

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Alabama doula Kirsten Clark talks about an intense experience watching obstetric violence happen right in front of her, and how her practice has evolved as a result.

* TRIGGER WARNING FOR SEXUAL ASSAULT AND OBSTETRIC VIOLENCE *

The doctor walked in, put on gloves, and stuck both hands into the laboring mom’s vagina. There was no consent. He didn’t tell her was going to do that or ask if she was okay with it. Moments later, he announced, “Oh, she is tearing already.”

I had to look away because I could not physically handle what I was seeing. My body began shaking. I felt lightheaded; I felt frozen in place. [I felt] complete helplessness and fear and anger and grief.

I walked away from that feeling responsible in a way for what had happened, and knowing that this mom had just experienced something that shouldn’t have happened, that something was really wrong. And that there was this visceral response in my body to what I was seeing.

I just kind of remember being back in that place and feeling like there was nothing that I could do to change what was happening to this mom in that moment.

[I knew] my body was responding to something… even though I wasn’t the person that it was happening to, I was still having this response and I needed to do something to work through it. I knew I didn’t want to be in that position again, feeling so helpless and frozen.

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Ep. 28 –“It was like torture.” C-section Without Adequate Anesthesia | Amy Woods

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In a town with one hospital and two doctors, Amy Woods describes her labor and subsequent surgery without pain medication. She also talks about the effects on her and her family afterwards and the hospital’s response to the incident.

“The doctor said I had to have a c-section because I wasn’t progressing. They were kind of, a little messy with the reasons for the c-section.

As they were taking my husband to get him all dressed for the c-section, I just remember having the most distinct feeling that I needed to tell him how much I loved him. And that–I was going to die.

I thought the safer option for [my baby] was the c-section.

Then the OB came in and she did her poke test on my stomach and I told her that I could still feel all of it, that I had feelings in my legs. I could feel everything. And she just started cutting. And she just started going on with the surgery.

I feel like at the beginning, I went into a little bit of shock. And then immediately after, I just started screaming.”

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“I Found My Voice & I’m Not Stopping”| Sexually Assaulted by Her OB, Marissa Hoechstetter Fights Back

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Marissa Hoechstetter is one of more than 17 women currently suing Columbia University and its associated hospitals for a 20-year “massive coverup” of Ob/Gyn Dr. Robert Hadden’s sexual abuse of patients. In this episode, she talks about her long path to justice for the sexual assaults she suffered at Dr. Hadden’s hands, getting his name off her daughters’ birth certificates, and her ongoing advocacy for transparency in physician conduct and licensing and on behalf of survivors of these kinds of crimes.

We say support women, believe women, but then you come forward and it doesn’t matter…. In my case and in others, there’s evidence [the institutions] were alerted to this behavior and they just look away. They don’t want to admit it. It’s a business choice.

With cases like [Larry] Nassar and [George] Tyndall at USC, there’s been some high-profile cases of serial sex crimes by medical professionals. The way the media treats it still, it’s like it’s this one odd weirdo out there. But from the people I hear from who reach out to me now, and from my experience, I think it’s more pervasive and present than we want to admit.

The people I hear from aren’t even sure if it’s a crime. They don’t know what to do with what happened. We’re not talking enough about sexual assault by doctors.”

MARISSA’S STORY IN THE NEWS

www.buzzfeednews.com/article/albert…abuse-cy-vance

www.cbsnews.com/news/columbia-uni…al-abuse-lawsuit/

www.politico.com/states/new-york/…isconduct-735322

BY MARISSA

www.bustle.com/p/my-abusers-name…-removed-12605285

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Spain 2019: Four Case Studies of Lawsuits for Obstetric Violence

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I remember my very first international conference on human rights in childbirth–Belgium in 2014.  As one of the few U.S. attendees, I had expected to be an outsider learning about things foreign to me. Instead, I was struck by the consistency of the themes throughout Europe (for that conference) with what I knew of the U.S. as far as obstetric violence and persecution of out-of-hospital (or community) birth. Even among very different cultures, resource levels, and health systems, the patterns were remarkably similar when it came to the language used against birthing people, the punitive/paternalistic attitudes towards them, and the nature of the human rights violations they suffered.

Francisca Fernández Guillén is a Spanish colleague I had the pleasure of meeting at one of those conferences several years ago. She is a feminist lawyer who specialises in sexual and reproductive health and patient’s rights and who collaborated as an expert with the Women’s Health Observatory (part of Spain’s Ministry of Health) on the development of the “Strategy for Assistance at Normal Childbirth in the National Health System.” She also gives training and talks for professionals on health legislation and bioethics and contributes articles and opinion pieces to journals and specialist press (her website).

Coordinated by Francisca, a team of Spanish lawyers have recently filed four claims against Spain with the European Court of Human Rights related to the violations of these women’s human rights in childbirth. Below are summaries of those cases, graciously provided for us in English by Francisca and her team. (Readers who have taken Birth Monopoly’s Know Your Rights: Legal and Human Rights in Childbirth for Birth Professionals and Advocates course will recognize the references below to the European Court of Human Rights’ articulation of the “fundamental human right to choose the circumstances in which [we] give birth” from the 2010 decision in Ternovszky vs. Hungary.)

Sadly, whether you are reading this from the U.S., Argentina, or Ireland, I think you may find these stories sound very familiar: medical procedures and surgery without consent, disrespectful and demeaning treatment resulting in PTSD, and systemic dismissal of these women’s rights to informed consent, bodily integrity, and autonomy.

NOTE: Just this week, Francisca and Roses Revolution founder Jesusa Ricoy Olariaga reported that a judge ordered the arrest of woman in Oviedo (Asturias, Spain), who was then taken to the hospital against her will for an induction of labor on April 24. The woman, 42 weeks pregnant with a healthy, normal pregnancy, had been planning a home birth and was being monitored by her midwife. It appears that she voluntarily went to the hospital for additional testing, where they recommended she have an induction. She and her husband were still deciding what to do when the hospital intervened to initiate the chain of events that led to her arrest and forced induction. After about two days of the induction, she was taken to surgery for “failure” to progress. Imagine the stress of giving birth under those circumstances–taken into physical custody while heavily pregnant, your body literally forced to contract and dilate, under the supervision of strangers who view you as some sort of baby-containing object. Updates from Jesusa are here. A petition about this situation is here.

Case #1: Summary of Complaint of Mrs. J.S.A.

“[T]he conduct of the woman at every moment has NOT been AT ALL collaborative.”
– Treating midwife

On November 3rd, 2012, after a normal and well-managed pregnancy, Mrs. S. arrived at Hospital de Cruces (Vizcaya, Spain) to give birth. From the moment that she entered the delivery room, the midwife adopted an authoritarian attitude: she forced her to stay face-up without moving, didn’t allow her to drink and restricted the presence of the future father.

The labor proceeded normally, however, when the baby was just about to emerge the midwife wanted to perform an episiotomy (cutting of the skin, muscles, nerves and fasciae that surround the vagina). The firm and repeated opposition of Mrs. S. did not stop the midwife taking advantage of her defenseless position in order to make the cut anyway. In the clinical history, the midwife wrote:

“In summary the conduct of the woman at every moment has NOT been AT ALL collaborative. Opposing any postural indications, episiotomy, cutting of the cord, placing her hands on her perineum… and impeding any and all maneuvers/handling [maniobra]. VERY DIFFICULT the whole time.”

 Once her daughter was born, the midwife prevented skin to skin contact with the mother, and when the nurses aids went to congratulate Mrs. S. on the birth, the midwife told them not to do so because “she’s behaved very badly” and “she doesn’t deserve this baby.” She told Mrs. S. that she would put it in her medical history and that “I’d have to take the baby from you because you’ve behaved so badly.” “If you had gone to Quirón (private hospital), you would have had a C-section, you’re lucky that you got me.”

Hearing these comments, Mrs. S. felt humiliated and ashamed and was not able to even demand that they she be given her newborn daughter. During the following weeks and months she felt very emotionally fragile. She constantly relived the birthing experience and had nightmares at night. She was not able to share her experience with the people closest to her, she felt uncomfortable in the presence of pregnant women and woke up distraught, vividly reliving the birth. She tended to cry daily, felt guilty for what had happened and questioned what she could have done to avoid the mistreatment. The experience produced intense anguish and a feeling of loss of control at not being able to avoid the flashbacks, and she eventually came to think that it would have been better to not have had her daughter so she wouldn’t have to suffer this way.

At a physical level, the episiotomy caused stress incontinence and pain. The repercussions in her married and sexual life have been severe, resulting in avoidance of sexual relations, insecurity about her body image, and dysmorphia with respect to her genital zone. She feels worthless and ugly when seeing that there is a large hole left in the vulva. She cries during sexual relations, which have been unsatisfactory, despite the affection and love that she feels towards her husband. All of this has entailed a grave loss of self-esteem and confidence in herself. Her relationship with health professionals is also affected, as she has lost confidence in them.

In October 2013, she filed a complaint before the criminal courts that was closed without any investigation. Although the Appeal Court ordered the Court to investigate what had transpired, the court once again closed the case. During the judicial process, gynecological and obstetric expert reports were submitted that detailed that there was no medical necessity to perform the episiotomy on Mrs. S. An expert psychiatric report was also attached that provided evidence for the psychological scars and a diagnosis of Post-Traumatic Stress in relation with the mistreatment suffered during birth. However, all of the evidentiary material submitted by the victim was ignored.

After having exhausted all domestic remedies within our national jurisdiction to obtain the protection of Mrs. F’s rights, reaching the final instance (Constitutional Court), we consider that the judicial decisions have forsaken the rights to dignity, liberty, physical and moral integrity and equality, thereby violating the Spanish Constitution, the international human rights conventions ratified by Spain, with special reference to the Convention for the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women, the recommendations of this Committee, the declarations of the WHO in relation to the prevention and eradication of lack of respect and mistreatment during childbirth care in health centers, and the jurisprudence of the European Court of Human Rights. According to the latter, the right to take decisions about ones’ own maternity form part of the respect for private and family life, with the right of women to decide autonomously during pregnancy, labor and postpartum period being an area of application of Article 8 of the ECHR.

The Spanish State has also failed in its obligation to adopt the necessary measures to modify or abolish the prevailing customs and practices that discriminate against women. In this sense, allowing discriminatory attitudes, such as mistreatment during birth and other forms of obstetric violence based on gender stereotypes such as privileging the reproductive function of the woman, her infantilization or the perception that she is incapable of making decisions over her health and her own body, is proof of the State’s total neglect of demands for protection made by victims of violence in the health sector, negligence for which there have as yet been no consequences.

Case #2: Summary of the Complaint of Mrs. S.F.M.

“It is the doctor who decides whether or not to perform the episiotomy.”- Trial judge

On September 26th, 2009, during a normal and well-managed pregnancy, Mrs. F. arrived at the Xeral Calde Hospital in Lugo, part of the Galician Health Service, as a precautionary measure and in order to receive some guidance as she was experiencing prodromal contractions. She was admitted too early in the labor and 9 vaginal exams were conducted on her, causing her to contract an infection with intrapartum fever, necessitating that antibiotics be administered and her daughter be admitted to the neonatal unit upon birth.

She was given oxytocin (a medicine not without risk which is used to stimulate labor) without a medical indication for this use and without obtaining her consent. The future father’s presence was restricted, and she was forced to give birth lying on her back and with her legs in stirrups. The attendants directed her pushing, contrary to what is recommended by current scientific literature, and finally extracted baby M. using instruments and by performing an episiotomy (cutting of the skin, muscles, nerves and fasciae that surround the vagina).

No one informed Mrs. F. of the medical indication for these techniques, the indications which made them necessary, existing options or alternatives, nor the risks and benefits of these procedures; information which she would have needed in order to give informed consent. She was, in summary, totally ignored as a rational subject, as a person capable of reasoning and understanding and taking appropriate decisions about her own health and that of her daughter. Furthermore, the placenta was manually extracted, against what is medically indicated in this case.

They only allowed her to see her daughter for 10-15 minutes every three hours and the father was only allowed to see his child twice a day for 30 minutes. They bottle-fed the child without her permission, despite the fact that the mother had indicated that she wished to breastfeed. This subsqeuently made breastfeeding and bonding very difficult.

As a result of the above, Mrs. F. suffered physical damage consisting of hypotonia of the pelvic floor, with contracture of the scar from the episiotomy, recovery from which requires specialized physical for pelvic floor rehabilitation. Furthermore, she suffered vaginismus and Postpartum Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Dysparuenia due to the scar contracture from the episiotomy, and the vaginismus lasted for 1 year and nine months.

She also suffered moral injury from being deprived of her right to make informed decisions about her own health and her own body, and represent her daughter in taking decisions relating to her child’s health alongside the father. She also suffered pecuniary/financial loss relating to the costs incurred in the resulting consultations and treatments.

When the complaint was presented before the Administrative Courts, the court of first instance/trial judge omitted any reference to the violation of Mrs. F’s right to informed consent, merely stating that “it is the doctor who decides whether or not to perform the episiotomy.” The appellate court declared that requesting consent for the episiotomy was “implausible” and that it was a “technical decision.” Mrs F. provided reports from experts demonstrating that the interventions were contrary to what is considered good obstetric practice.  These reports were not taken into account.

After having exhausted all domestic remedies within our national jurisdiction to obtain the protection of Mrs. F’s rights, and reaching the final instance (Constitutional Court), we consider that the judicial decisions have forsaken the rights to dignity, liberty, physical and moral integrity and equality, thereby violating the principles enshrined in our Spanish Constitution, the international human rights conventions ratified by Spain, with special reference to the Convention for the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women, the recommendations of this Committee, the declarations of the WHO in relation to the prevention and eradication of lack of respect and mistreatment during childbirth care in health centers, and the jurisprudence of the European Court of Human Rights. According to the latter, the right to make decisions about one’s own maternity forms part of respect for private and family life, with the right of women to decide autonomously during pregnancy, labor and postpartum period being an area of application of Article 8 of the ECHR. Women have the fundamental human right to choose the circumstances in which they give birth: the ECHR is the first court that articulates this right in these terms, based on a respect for the rights to privacy, autonomy and control of the woman giving birth over her own body.

The Spanish State has also failed in its obligation to adopt the necessary measures to modify or abolish the prevailing customs and practices that discriminate against women. In this sense, allowing discriminatory attitudes, such as mistreatment during birth and other forms of obstetric violence based on gender stereotypes such as privileging the reproductive function of the woman, her infantilization or the perception that she is incapable of making decisions over her health and her own body, is proof of the State’s total neglect of demands for protection made by victims of violence in the health sector, negligence for which there have as yet been no consequences.

Case #3: Summary of the Complaint of Mrs. M.D.C.

“What happened to her is akin to what a prisoner of war who has been tortured may have suffered.” – Treating psychiatrist

On January 6th, 2009, Mrs.  M.D., pregnant with her first child and after a normal and well-managed pregnancy, arrived with contractions at the Virgen del Rocío hospital in Seville, where they performed a major abdominal surgery (C-section) on her, because the labor and delivery room was full. The treatment she received has left her with grave physical and psychological scars.

From the first instant, the Hospital personnel intervened in a birth and pregnancy that presented as absolutely normal, subjecting it to what is known as a “cascade of interventions.” Despite not presenting with the symptoms which conformed to the circumstances indicated by scientific literature for admitting laboring women to the hospital, Mrs. C was admitted immediately upon arrival. They artificially ruptured the amniotic sack and administered oxytocin, from which point her contraction pattern changed. They did not ask her consent for any of these three procedures (admission, rupture and administration of oxytocin). The risks were not explained to her nor were alternatives offered, despite the fact that alternatives are advised since none of the interventions are without risk.

At the same time that these procedures were performed without medical indication, they denied her a treatment that she had been prescribed, which was the administration of antacids for her hiatal hernia, a condition that causes stomach acids to come up through the throat, producing a painful burning sensation. The midwife forced her to lie on the hospital bed face up, with legs open and flexed slightly without moving. The lithotomy position is wholely counterproductive when a person suffers from her condition.

To administer epidural anesthesia she was punctured up to 10 times in the back, 9 of which failed, by medical students or residents — non-experts. The catheter had to be reinserted into the spinal column repeatedly; a process that normally takes no more than 10 minutes was prolonged over 1 hour. As a consequence of these punctures she was left with a lesion called “bilateral osteotendinous hyporeflexia in the lower limbs and claudication in a standing position in heels and toes of probable radicular medullary origin.”

Finally, according to what a nurse told her, when they were about to take her to the delivery room to give birth they decided to take her instead to the operating room, due to what appears to be an overcroding of the delivery room. In response to Mrs. C’s refusal, they informed her husband that she would be operated on and, disregarding her pleas, took her on the stretcher to the operating room, while the baby’s head was already in the vaginal canal.

The fetal monitoring graphs show that the baby was stable throughout all of this. After the C-section, they denied her medication for postoperative pain, despite the cries of the patient. This is not medically justified because postoperative pain medication after C-sections is given per protocol.

With respect to the damage suffered as a consequence of these interventions, she is left with a neuropathic lesion, generalized weakness, anemia, insomnia and anxiety. She cannot care for her daughter and is totally dependent on others to manage her daily life. She had to move from Seville to Badajoz, to the home of her parents, due to her limited autonomy. She was diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) that had to be treated intensively with anti-depressant medication. According to the psychiatrist that treated her: “what happened to her is akin to what a prisoner of war who has been tortured may have suffered.”

Over more than two and a half years she had to undergo a multitude of diagnostic tests and pursue neurological treatment, rehabilitation and psychotherapy, with intensive medication.

When a Claim for of the public service was presented, the Andalusian Service did not resolve the case, forcing Mrs. C. to initiate an arduous judicial procedure. Over the course of this process, the judges have omitted the guarantees that, in respect to informed consent, are required by Spanish law and jurisprudence, ignoring the opposition of Mrs. C. to the C-section as well as the omission of the treatments that she required, and taking for granted the information given to the husband as “informed consent” for the C-section.

After having exhausted all domestic remedies of our national jurisdiction, including taking the case to the European Court of Human Rights, we consider that the judicial decisions have forsaken the rights to dignity, liberty, physical and moral integrity, thereby violating the principles enshrined in our Spanish Constitution, the international human rights conventions ratified by Spain, with special reference to the Convention for the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women, the recommendations of this Committee, the declarations of the WHO in relation to the prevention and eradication of lack of respect and mistreatment during childbirth care in health centers, and the jurisprudence of the European Court of Human Rights. According to the latter, the right to take decisions about one’s own maternity form part of the respect for private and family life, with the right of women to decide autonomously during pregnancy, labor and postpartum period being an area of application of Article 8 of the ECHR. Women have the fundamental human right to choose the circumstances in which their birth takes place: the ECHR is the first court that articulates this right in these terms, based on a respect for the rights to privacy, autonomy and control of the woman giving birth over her own body.

The Spanish State has also failed in its obligation to adopt the necessary measures to modify or abolish the prevailing customs and practices that discriminate against women. In this sense, allowing discriminatory attitudes, such as mistreatment during birth and other forms of obstetric violence based on gender stereotypes such as privileging the reproductive function of the woman, her infantilization or the perception that she is incapable of making decisions over her health and her own body, is proof of the State’s total neglect of demands for protection made by victims of violence in the health sector, negligence for which there have as yet been no consequences.

Case #4: Summary of the Complaint of N.A.E.

“They put me on the operating table as if I was a doll. No one tried to calm me.  I cried a lot.”
– N.A.E. (mother and plaintiff)

During a normal and well-managed pregnancy, Mrs. N.A.E., who at the time was 25 years old, arrived at the Donostia public hospital, part of the Basque Health Service, as her waters had broken. There, they induced her labor prematurely and she ended up having an unnecessary C-section. During the process, the health personnel infantilized her and deprived her of the right to make informed decisions. Her physical and psychological priorities and needs were ignored. The surgeons used the operating room like a classroom, using her as an example for students to learn techniques for performing a C-section.

“They put me on the operating table as if I was a doll. No one introduced themselves, no one talked to me, no one looked me in the face. No one tried to calm me. I cried a lot. They crossed my arms. The operating room was full of people, it seemed like a public plaza, they ignored me and shouted among themselves, “Where is the baby’s heartbeat?” I was there alone and naked and people came and went, the door kept opening and closing. They talked among themselves about their things, all very important and indispensable in an operating room: what they did on the weekend, that this or that person is sick… They talked, without it mattering that I was there and that my son was about to be born, that he would only be born once, they didn’t let me experience it. A doctor that was acting in the role of a teacher was guiding the steps (information that I would rather not have had to hear) for the people who were operating on me, he was telling them how they should cut and what they were cutting and moving… The anesthesiologist is the only person that at any time paid attention to me and tried to calm me. I was shaken up. Someone was explaining what they have to do. I couldn’t believe it, I asked that there be no more people and there were so many voices! They didn’t stop speaking for a second, not even when my son was born.”

Once born, the baby was separated from his mother. He was shown to his mother at the height of her hand, but she could not touch him because they had restrained her arms in a crossed position for the operation and left her like this. They ordered her to give him a kiss, bringing him close to her face, but before she could even speak they took him away. She instead had to listen to how the teacher explained to the students how to sew her up. Her cries for them to bring her baby during the hours following the operation were ignored. They neither informed her husband that she had left the operating room nor was he allowed to accompany her during the following hours.

During the postpartum period, Mrs. N.A.E. went to her primary care physician for symptoms of anxiety in relation to the experience with the birth. In a report from 7/6/2013, the psychiatrist at the Andoian Mental Health Center (Basque Health Service), Dr. Z. diagnosed her with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and prescribed anti-anxiety treatment. Dr. Z. describes:

“The patient’s clinical presentation is compatible with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (F43.1) following a difficult and stressful situation experienced 11 months prior. The woman recounted the experience in the hospital where she gave birth to her son by C-section.

From that day, and secondary to the treatment the patient was referred to by the hospital services, began symptoms of anticipatory anxiety that has led her to delay personal medical check-ups, in addition to an exaggerated fear of hospitals, symptoms which the patient had not previously experienced […] We observed clinical anguish and anticipatory anxiety, emotional and depressive-reactive mood that was impacting her daily life.”

She presented a Claim for before the health service which was accompanied by an expert obstetric report that reveals harmful practices in the care she was given and puts in sharp relief the fact that there are existing alternative therapeutic methods which were not practiced and that could have been used to avoid a C-section. Similarly, the expert psychiatric report reveals that the feeling of impotence which always accompanies presentation of PTSD could have been avoided through informed consent, because it allows the person to have control over their life, accepting or rejecting the interventions and preparing themselves to assume possible adverse results. The violation of personal and family privacy is also revealed in the report as a traumatic factor.

Therefore, as a consequence of the manner in which the Public Health Service acted, Mrs. N.A.E. was subjected to a major abdominal surgery (C-section) along with its potential risks which means her future pregnancies pose a higher risk, and additionally she now suffers from PTSD.

During the judicial proceedings that followed, the psychiatrist from the health center that diagnosed Mrs. N.A.E.’s condition was pressured to change the diagnosis. The judge did not allow the experts to give testimony in court, nor did the judge take into account their written reports. The Constitutional Court did not admit the application for amparo.

After having exhausted all of the domestic remedies of our national jurisdiction, we consider that the judicial decisions have forsaken the rights to dignity, liberty, physical and moral integrity and equality of Mrs. N.A.E., violating the Spanish Constitution, the international human rights conventions ratified by Spain, with special reference to the Convention for the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women, the recommendations of this Committee, the declarations of the WHO in relation to the prevention and eradication of lack of respect and mistreatment during childbirth care in health centers, and the jurisprudence of the European Court of Human Rights. According to the latter, the right to take decisions about one’s own maternity form part of the respect for private and family life, with the right of women to decide autonomously during pregnancy, labor and postpartum period being an area of application of Article 8 of the ECHR.

The Spanish State has also failed in its obligation to adopt the necessary measures to modify or abolish the prevailing customs and practices that discriminate against women. In this sense, allowing discriminatory attitudes, such as mistreatment during birth and other forms of obstetric violence based on gender stereotypes such as privileging the reproductive function of the woman, her infantilization or the perception that she is incapable of making decisions over her health and her own body, is proof of the State’s total neglect of demands for protection made by victims of violence in the health sector, negligence for which there have as yet been no consequences.

 

What if Consent Culture Applied to Birth?

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“I have clients who were heavily pressured into things–and not in a mean way!–who technically consented to those things, and say later that they did consent but with a qualifier that their provider ‘really pushed for it.’ I don’t think they feel taken advantage of, but I don’t think they feel like they enthusiastically made that choice, either.” – A doula in Kentucky

When we educate clients and providers about Informed Consent in maternity care, we usually talk about it in sort of a transactional way: the medical professional is obligated to share certain information, and the patient then selects from among the choices based on the information provided. It’s a formula: here’s your info on risks, benefits, and alternatives; thank you, here’s my choice.

But this narrow view of informed consent as a simple information exchange misses a whole lot: most of all, the power dynamics that are built into the setting where it occurs. As it turns out, power is a major part of the discussion around consent in general.

A Culture of Non-Consent

It’s hard to talk about consent in birth when we have such a poor understanding of the concept in general.

In American culture, consent is usually talked about in reference to sex: dating, the #metoo movement, the epidemic of campus sexual assault. In the past, our definition of consent has been broad: “yes” meant consent, but so did the absence of no, a capitulation to pressure, or a moment in time where we said yes and then felt obligated to stick with that yes even when circumstances or our minds changed–also known as “implied consent.”

I cringe when I re-watch the “classic” movies I grew up with, where this loose understanding of consent in sex is reflected and reinforced. Look at most any movie made in the 20th century (and into the 21st), where the men chase and the women are chased. The men kiss, the women are kissed. The men persist until the women give in, and then everything is rosy. Remember that famous scene from Gone With the Wind where an irate Rhett Butler grabs Scarlett’s head and threatens to crush her skull, and then drags her upstairs to the bedroom against her will? The next scene is her sitting up in bed in the morning with sparkling eyes and smile. Look at Grease: they sing, “Did she put up a fight?” Look at Sixteen Candles, where a boy literally passes his blacked-out drunk girlfriend on to another guy.

We are immersed in scenes like these all our lives, and the beliefs they represent run deep in our psyches. It’s no wonder our idea of “consent” is so shapeless, then, when it comes to another aspect of our reproductive lives: pregnancy and childbirth. If our consent boundaries have been porous all our lives, it’s not too hard to be pushed into something involving our most intimate parts and still consider that “consent.” Worse, when we do “give in” to someone pushing on our boundaries, we often still blame ourselves for whatever happens. We say, “Well, I did let him do it.” We take the fall and let “him” off the hook. “He” was doing what he does, and we were just a casualty of that who didn’t fight back hard enough.

All of this applies to birth. We hear stories daily of procedures being casually introduced as if the patient has no choice, manipulation, coercion, and even force.  “Implied consent” is often invoked inappropriately to make people think they’ve given up their consent rights once they are admitted to the hospital. My podcast is full of examples of all these things.

So, to move the conversation toward a more robust understanding of consent, I created this image using information adapted slightly from the rape education materials from the Violence Prevention & Response team at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

Consent Culture Birth Monopoly

Consent and Power

How interesting is the item above about when one person has more power? I decided to leave it in the list word-for-word from the MIT team because we need to talk openly about how the express hierarchy of power in maternity care complicates consent conversations. I certainly would not say laboring people are inherently unable to give consent because they have less power than medical professionals–but I would say that we can’t talk about consent in the context of maternity care without acknowledging the real power dynamics at play.

There is an extreme differential between a patient in pain, on their back, in an unfamiliar environment, and a professional surrounded by colleagues on their home turf.  Even more powerful are the years of cultural conditioning around mothers as martyr-vessels and medical professionals as authorities to be obeyed. This dynamic has at least as much to do with what happens in the birth room as the patient’s preferences do.

In sex, we recognize that certain power dynamics, like those between a child and an adult or a professor and a student, make consent impossible. Likewise, we must recognize that powerful dynamics are also at play in the birth room, where people with professional privilege and implied authority are interacting with other people who are at their most vulnerable.


If you are a medical professional reading this, imagine how it would feel if you were required to talk to patients while siting cross-legged on the floor of the room while looking up at them, wearing a toga that didn’t quite cover your knees, while nurses felt comfortable stepping over you and interrupting your conversation as you tried to do your job from the floor. I imagine most physicians would balk at this idea, because we can all feel how undignified it is. Your literal and figurative position is lowered, and that affects how you interact with others.

To take it even further with the power dynamic, now pretend your medical training is seen by the world as a liability rather than an asset. “Well, he’s a doctor,” someone might say. “Everyone knows they are too tired and traumatized to be rational.”


These power dynamics are especially potent because there are 1) sometimes huge consequences for patients whose consent is violated, in the form of trauma, PTSD, physical injury or complications, and distrust of the medical system in future, and 2) almost no consequences for medical professionals who violate consent. Although the stakes are very high for patients, there are no checks and balances for this power dynamic; if anything, it is systemically enforced.

How do we change this?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section. And as we talk about strategies and tactics that individuals can employ, I want to be clear that we can’t fix this power differential alone. It requires a systemic, top-down realignment of who is considered the legal authority in the room. But that’s a conversation for another day (doulas, start with the basics in my Know Your Rights course!).

I will share what has been most helpful for me on a personal level: building up my consent boundary muscles. It means knowing in my bones what consent feels like so that when someone is pushing on my boundary, I notice instantly. Working at that and exercising those muscles mean my red flags get stronger, faster, and more accurate over time. I recognize it right away when a boundary is being challenged, and then I get to decide what to do about it.

This is a work in progress for me, and pushing back is a whole other set of muscles around how we handle confrontation. But before that, you can practice holding firm, knowing that your boundary keeps you safe and you don’t have to explain or justify your boundary. Just that it is there, and you trust it.

So, my suggestion for doulas is to help your clients strengthen those consent boundary muscles while being realistic that you can’t undo decades of conditioning. This is a delicate place where we have to be clear about where the doula’s responsibility ends and where the client’s begins.

Teaching about informed consent in relation to specific procedures is a natural place to shift the conversation on consent as being rooted in “yes” rather than an absence of no or a capitulation to pressure.  Prenatally, you can emphasize consent throughout by asking permission at every step (“Is it okay if I touch you?”); tuning in carefully to your client’s cues including tone of voice, facial expression, and body language; and reflecting back when you pick up that consent is not enthusiastic and unequivocal. (“You know, I heard you say yes, but you look uncomfortable. If you don’t want to practice labor positions right now, I don’t want you to agree just because I suggested it. You’re always the boss, remember? What do you really want to do right now?”)

And yes, you can help shift the power dynamics in the hospital by modeling healthy boundaries, by being a source of power yourself. In fact, not doing those things creates a void for your client, who invited you there to stand by their side in solidarity. Doulas are not martyr-vessels, either. Healthy, strong boundaries go hand in hand with respect and love.

I wish doulas could ask these questions in the birth room:

“Do you feel like you’ve got enough information right now to make a decision you feel good about?”

“If no one else were in the room and you could do anything right now, would this be your choice?”

“If you were to look back on this moment, would you say, ‘I wish I had held out longer’? What does that mean?”

“Are you okay with what’s happening right now? Are you still saying, ‘Yes’ to this?”

In the bedroom or the birth room, true consent is not just an absence of no, and it is never implied nor coerced. Let’s work on reframing consent in birth into what it should be in all aspects of our lives: an active and ongoing choice where the power to say “yes” or “no” lies within each of us.


Ep. 30 –“I’m not here to please everybody” | Author Janelle Hanchett

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Janelle Hanchett is the author of “I’m Just Happy to Be Here: A Memoir of Recklessness, Rehab, and Renegade Mothering,” out in paperback May 7, 2019. In this episode, we talk about the politics of motherhood and why the idea that controlling our bodies in birth is controversial. Janelle also talks about ‘how I discovered I am white’ (her excellent post of that title is at her Renegade Mothering blog here: https://www.renegademothering.com/2014/12/09/discovered-white/) and her new book.

There’s this larger question: ‘Is motherhood enough to turn us into perfect versions of ourselves?’ I was really looking into the redemptive narrative surrounding motherhood. Like, this idea that we are saved by motherhood, that we are washed clean by it, that we are redeemed by it, and that the dark part of our self can be erased through love of our children. Spoiler alert, I think that’s bullshit. I think it’s more just subtle erasure of women, right? Because if you erase *any* part of me, you’re erasing me.

“What that’s basically saying is that the instant a woman has a baby, she is transformed into a vessel of motherhood for this child. She is no longer a fully formed human being. Human beings have fatal flaws! We aren’t that any more. We are now just this clean slate to be used and to nurture this child. And it’s bullshit! So–the book is a story about addiction and motherhood, but it’s really kind of a larger exploration of that theme.”

Follow Janelle at www.Facebook.com/renegademothering
and www.Instagram.com/renegademothering

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Ep. 31 – Support After (Home) Birth Loss | Mother Ada Johnson and Midwife Sarah Butterfly

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**TW: Stillbirth, Infant Loss**

What do you do when someone in your life has a stillbirth? In this episode of Birth Allowed Radio, Ada Johnson talks about losing her baby Button during birth and the aftermath of that event, and, along with her midwife Sarah, shares how providers and others can respond sensitively when someone experiences a stillbirth. I want to thank both Ada and Sarah for coming on the show and delving back into this deeply personal experience with us.

Resources

Consulting and training services from our expert guest, Ada Johnson

Resources for professionals from Empty Arms Bereavement Support

Compassionate Bereavement Care® Certification through the MISS Foundation

CDC home page on stillbirth

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Ep. 32 –“I’m not vulnerable any more.”| Katherine DiPaulo on Alleged Sexual Assault During Labor

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**TW: Alleged Sexual Assault and Birth Assault**

This is Katherine DiPaulo’s story. She alleges she was sexually assaulted by an obstetrician at a Philadelphia-area hospital in 2005. She has not been able to hold him accountable.

Ms. DiPaulo would like to connect with other victims. If you have experienced sexual assault in your obstetric care in the Philadelphia area, please get in touch with us at birthallowedradio@gmail.com or complete this form: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1SURd8e1KBVdm4vcG47Xab-FwKnqUCXO8tbJeqaWB1_k. Your privacy will be respected to the fullest.

In her words

Had I angered him, it could have been a lot worse. I was doing what I had to do to protect my baby and myself. But I still have a lot of guilt and shame and anger at myself for not stopping it, not doing something. But my body was frozen and in shock.

I repressed what happened although it never left me. I started to have chronic insomnia, … panic attacks, anxiety and depression, difficulty in my marriage. I have flashbacks all the time of this person. I have flashbacks of the event itself. I’m hyper vigilant. I’m scared I’m going to run into him in the grocery store.

To be honest, I think if I do see him, I’m going to tell him off, because I’m no longer in that vulnerable position, being in labor and hooked up to all of these IVs and monitors. So, I’m not vulnerable any more, so there’s a part of me that still has the strength that if I do see him, I’m going to tell him off.

At this point, I’m so furious about it and just want to put it out there so other women can prevent something like this from happening to them.

Related

“‘I found my voice and I’m not stopping’ | Sexually Assaulted by Her OB, Marissa Hoechstetter Fights Back”

Know Your Rights: Legal and Human Rights in Childbirth for Birth Professionals and Advocates

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Ep. 33 –“We Are Changing the Conversation on Doulas & Advocacy”| Doula Trainer Nickie Tilsner

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Advocacy, burnout, self care, sustainability, and the patriarchy–they’re all in this episode! Our guest is Nickie Tilsner, the co-executive director and lead trainer of Cornerstone Doula Trainings, and co-author of RE:BIRTH – The childbirth preparation guide for all people to have an informed, dignified and joyful birth in any setting (due for release early Fall). Also announcing a first-ever collaboration between Birth Monopoly and a doula training organization to offer rights training to new doulas!!! The “Rights Informed Birth Advocate” certification will be offered through Cornerstone starting July 2019.

In her words

In order to thrive in the work and have sustainability: feeding your purpose is what really holds resilience and what is actually being trauma informed for yourself and looking at things through a strengths based lens. And feeding your purpose is knowing that you’re effective in the work and being able to really embody the work. And in think that’s what’s going to keep people really going in this and feeling great about the work they’re doing and enjoying it.

I burnt out about three years into my practice when I first started and had to take a break and came back with a new way of looking at things. I’m still learning what being trauma informed for myself means.

Doulas and birth workers and anyone else in this space need to understand, your brain cannot discern whether this is happening to someone else or if it’s happening to you, when you’re in the situation. And even when you hear traumatic stories, your brain goes into a trauma response. This vicarious trauma is real.

I want this to be a part of every dialogue when it comes to birth and birth work… Number one, how we view advocacy as birth workers, number two, how we view ourselves as less powerful than other people in the room, number three, how we are silent and how our silence is complicity.

Resources

Cornerstone’s next labor and birth doula training, including the “Rights Informed Birth Advocate” certification in collaboration with Birth Monopoly (!!), starts July 12 in Oakland, CA: www.cornerstonedoulatrainings.com/sign-up. More to come after that!

Know Your Rights: https://birthmonopoly.com/know-your-rights-course/

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Informed Consent & the Vaginal Exam: Free Webinar

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Doulas: Are your clients getting informed consent for this common procedure? How can you help facilitate that?

Nurses: Are you getting true consent from your patients for vaginal exams? What should that even look like?

 

Like all procedures in pregnancy and birth, patients are entitled to informed consent around the vaginal exam. Reports from parents and birth workers, however, make it clear that this isn’t always happening. For survivors of sexual and other abuse, consent around vaginal exams is even more critical.

I’m your host (Cristen Pascucci)…

with special guest Barbara Christianson, a registered nurse, former doula, and patient advocate in Southern California.

What: Informed Consent and the Vaginal Exam
When: Monday, Nov. 4, 10 a.m. PST/1 p.m. EST
Where: Your computer or phone (Zoom)
Who: You, me, and Barbara Christianson, BSN, RN, PHN, CLC


In this free 1-hour webinar, we’ll talk about all about informed consent and the vaginal exam, including what doulas and nurses can do to facilitate true consent and respect refusal. (Feel free to stick around after for more discussion.)

We welcome your stories and comments in the chat box we’ll have going throughout the hour.

This opportunity is sponsored by Birth Monopoly’s online course Know Your Rights: Legal & Human Rights in Childbirth for Birth Professionals & Advocates.

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Leaving Against Medical Advice: Will Insurance Still Pay?

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At this time, this article is available only to students and graduates of Know Your Rights: Legal and Human Rights in Childbirth.

 

Care providers commonly believe that insurance will refuse to pay the bill for the around one percent of patients who leave the hospital against medical advice (or AMA), rather than staying for recommended treatment or observation. In fact, a 2012 University of Chicago study found that 43.9% of attending physicians and 68.6% of residents surveyed believed this to be true.

The Chicago Study 

The authors of that same study examined hundreds of Chicago-area discharges for a period from 2001 to 2010, determining which patients had left AMA , whether insurance had paid for the visit, and, if not, why not.

Their conclusion was straightforward:

“There were no instances in which an insurance company denied payment because the patient left against medical advice.”

You can read the study (“Financial Responsibility of Hospitalized Patients Who Left AMA: Urban Legend?”) yourself here.

One of the authors, Dr. John Schumann, wrote later:

I also thought it important to go to the source: I called the insurance companies themselves. I talked with VPs and media relations people from several of the nation’s largest private insurance carriers.

Each of them told me that the idea of a patient leaving AMA and having to foot their bill is bunk: nothing more than a medical urban legend.

They were glad to tell me so, as this was a rare occasion of insurance companies looking magnanimous. One director went so far as to poll his company’s own medical directors—a half dozen of them–and found that several of them had been taught and believed the canard about AMA discharge and financial responsibility. He was happy to set the record straight.

He also said:

“[P]atients and doctors beware: The next time you or your loved one has decided that it’s time to leave the hospital, don’t let us doctors coerce you into staying by threatening you with the bill.”
 

You can read his full article at KevinMD (“Does Leaving Against Medical Advice Stick Patients with a Bill?”) here.

 

 

 

Informed Consent 

Informed consent for medical treatment–a basic human and legal right of all people–requires that consent is given freely and without coercion.  It is a form of coercion to use financial pressure as a way of directing care, and as a general principle, coercion nullifies consent.  (Critical information like this for doulas, nurses, and other birth professionals is included in our Know Your Rights: Legal and Human Rights in Chlidbirth course.)

Financial Coercion in Maternity Care 

In birth, I have seen this tactic used to keep patients in abusive situations when they would prefer to go home until labor begins or advances, or to transfer to another facility.  One specific situation I have been involved in was when a doctor was bullying a young Midwestern mother to accept Pitocin in a normally progressing, unmedicated birth. This doctor routinely administered Pitocin to all birthing patients and said something like, “I’ve never delivered a baby without Pitocin and I’m not starting now.” This young woman, who already had a history of abuse, successfully avoided the medication with the help of a sympathetic nurse.  However, she left severely retraumatized by the way she had been treated by the doctor.  In her next pregnancy, she did everything she could to avoid the hospital.

A mother on the West Coast had been planning a VBAC (vaginal birth after Cesarean), but care providers told her when she presented in labor that the facility would not support her choice. They insisted she have surgery instead. They invoked the financial pressure of being stuck with the bill for her visit that day to dissuade her from attempting to go to another hospital where she could continue to labor. In distress and under duress, she eventually conceded and had the surgery. She left traumatized and having lost trust in the medical system. 

Your Experience with Leaving AMA 

Despite the strong evidence offered by the 2012 study authors, I have heard one or two firsthand stories over the years of patients being told by their insurance companies that they would refuse to pay for their visits that ended AMA.  Of course, there are many more stories of patients giving into and being traumatized by treatment they didn’t want because of this threat, whether it was real or not. 

My suggestion, if you are ever told this as a way of keeping you in the hospital against your will, is to contact the insurance company directly and get the response in writing, even if it is just by email. Remember that it is very common to get more than one answer from the same company in the same phone call, so be sure to escalate your question as far up the food chain as you can (and certainly beyond the person who answers the phone). 

And share with us in the comments! What has your experience been with financial coercion and leaving AMA?

 

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COVID-19 and Doula Support: How to Respond to Changing Hospital Policies

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Note: For more information and our March webinar on COVID-19 and Doula Support, as well as our hospital visitor policy tracker tool, please go here.

Note: The following article is dated March 13, 2020, and may or may not reflect current evidence and circumstances.

In times of uncertainty, it’s good to remember we aren’t alone, to refocus on what we do know and connect with others who are grappling with the same questions. Right now, families and businesses are all facing unknowns about how to cope with something most of us haven’t seen in our lifetimes.>

I’m hearing from folks around the country that due to the COVID-19 threat, hospitals are moving quickly to restrict visitors to as few as a single person accompanying the birthing person in labor. Thus, many doulas are being excluded in that sweeping effort.

This post is jam-packed with thoughts, information, and resources on how doulas and families can respond to these shifting circumstances, from the hospital to home, where many of us will be riding out this pandemic for a few weeks with our kids.

 

So, how to respond to changing visitor policies in the hospital?

 

1. Repeat after me: DOULAS ARE NOT VISITORS; THEY ARE ESSENTIAL SUPPORT PEOPLE AND MEMBERS OF THE HEALTHCARE TEAM.

AWHONN (the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric, and Neonatal Nurses) released the following statement on Wednesday:

AWHONN’s Position on Doulas with Patients During COVID-19

AWHONN recognizes that doula services contribute to the woman’s preparation for and support during childbirth and opposes hospital policies that restrict the presence of a doula during a woman’s active labor.

“Doulas are not visitors and should not be blocked from caring for patients in the antepartum, intrapartum and postpartum period. Most doulas have been contracted by patients weeks to months ahead of time and have established provider relationships. They are recognized by AWHONN and ACOG as essential personnel and part of the maternity care team,” said AWHONN member Nancy Travis, MS, BSN, RN, BC, CPN, CBC, Florida Section Chair.

AWHONN supports doulas as partners in care and acknowledges their ability to provide physical, emotional, and partner support to women. AWHONN opposes hospital policies that restrict the presence of a doula in the inpatient setting during an infectious disease outbreak. Read more about AWHONN’s position on continuous labor support for every woman here.

AWHONN shared the statement above as an image on social media, which you can share, too [AWHONN post]. Another resource in addition to AWHONN’s position statement on “Continuous Labor Support for Every Woman” is Evidence Based Birth’s classic “The Evidence for Doulas.” There is great information in both places about how doula support works and how beneficial it is.

In addition, the CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) has stated in its most recent (March 10) recommendations for infection control, “If restriction of all visitors is implemented, facilities can consider exceptions based on end-of-life situations or when a visitor is essential for the patient’s emotional well-being and care” (emphasis added) [link to statement].

[Update 3/13/20] Several nurses from our Know Your Rights community have informed me they are advocating themselves for doulas to be considered essential support people on their units–going to their managers to lobby for policy that doesn’t lump doulas in with “visitors” and collaborating with their communities to approach hospital management together.

In Southern California, a nurse led a group of doulas, midwives, and local advocates to quickly band together after local hospitals started restricting laboring patients to one visitor only, no exceptions.  They drafted a letter to hospitals, supported by a bundle of information on current guidelines regarding the virus and patient support.  After a community representative presented that information to one of the hospitals, the hospital decided to not count doulas as visitors, so that doulas can continue attending births there.  The community plans to contact more hospitals in the area this week.  They graciously shared their materials with us to share with you.

The full package includes:
– Community letter to hospitals [link]
– AWHONN position statement on continuous support [linked above and here]
– WHO (World Health Organization) brief on “Companion of choice during labour” [link]
– DONA (Doulas of North America) recommendations on “COVD-19 & Doulas” [link]
– ACOG and SMFM (Society for Maternal-Fetal Medicine) guidance for providers on treating pregnant patients suspected of or confirmed to have the virus [link]
– CDC recommendations for treating patients suspected of or confirmed to have the virus [link]
– CDC recommendations for inpatient obstetric healthcare settings [link]
– DONA letter to hospitals [link]
– ACOG practice advisory on COVID-19 [link]
– ACOG committee opinion on “Approaches to Limit Intervention During Labor and Birth” [link]

[Update 3/17/20] From California to Michigan to Tennessee and Virginia, we are hearing from advocates who have successfully lobbied for doula-inclusive hospital visitor policies.  We’ll share some of those stories, how they did it, and more resources in our virtual Town Hall Thursday, March 19.  Register here.

2. Please PREPARE your clients to advocate for their right to patient support.

“I will not give birth here without my doula. My doula is not a visitor. My doula is an essential support person and member of my team.”

Additionally, doulas are professionals in a contractual relationship with the client. The client hired them to be there. The client is the employer.

Clients can and should contact facilities now (ahead of labor) and communicate this to them. Clients can and should contact their providers now to communicate this and make sure they are on the same page, and ask their providers to advocate for them and their doulas at the facility policy level.

One doula, Traci Weafer in Alabama, shared with me how she’s getting ahead of things:

I’m having an open discussion with each of my clients on my books at least throughout the summer. We are talking about the real threat of the restriction of doula support upon the COVID-19.

The daily uncertainty of support should not be the thoughts of any pregnant person.

I’m advising each client to call the director of Women’s and Children’s services and voice their concern about the uncertainty of support and ask for verification that their doula (me) will be “allowed” to remain on their birth team. The client will ask for verification by email/letter that no matter the restrictions, the hospital acknowledges the client’s value and personal agency.

If the hospital cannot promise or refuses this letter…. my client can:

#1 Decide not to birth at that setting (but will the grass be greener at another facility?)

#2 Look into birthing at home if an attendant is available.

#3 Birth without me

The choice and journey is a hard one but in a time where doulas are still fighting for professional position, this fight is sadly up the the consumers who have hired us in the first place. All this in the privilege I stand in, I understand this will not work for all communities.

Juli Tilsner of Cornerstone Doula Trainings recommended that doulas plan to accompany clients regardless of any uncertainty, as “it is harder to turn away a doula when they are there already and the parent is insisting they let them in” [link to her post]. She also advised, “Be aware that the hospital protocols are changing daily and even hourly in some cases. What we hear this morning may be very different than what we get this eve from any particular hospital.”

3. Doulas, don’t be shy–reach out to your contacts at local hospitals directly and speak with them.

Let them know you are part of the team and a part of the solution; you would love to work with them to ensure safety protocols are being followed.

Embrace your value. The presence of a doula is known to positively impact physical and psychological healthcare outcomes. Don’t give that up; don’t step aside as “just a visitor.” Your clients need you. You are not just a bonus. You are ESSENTIAL.

The New Jersey Birth Doula Response Collective, headed by Britt Sando of Hummingbird Doulas, collaborated on a fantastic letter to their local hospitals and generously gave their permission to share it with others [link to letter].  Check it out!  Although this letter is clearly coming after hospital policy changes have already taken effect, I urge those of you who haven’t yet seen these changes to be proactive and reach out now before changes are made. It’s always easier to help guide policy than to try to get it reversed later!

If you feel any discomfort reaching out to hospitals, let’s examine that.  You are a powerful and vital team member!  I’ve put together a bunch of totally free resources for you to get started on remembering your great value and sharpening your advocacy skills [link to page].

4. Let’s always remember that it is a human right of the birthing person to decide who attends their birth. 

Public health emergencies are not nothing, but we can still be rational and thoughtful in decision-making when something extraordinary, like a pandemic, occurs.

5. Be safe and have a solid backup plan in case you cannot/should not attend births. 

It is entirely reasonable for hospitals to do whatever they can to reduce transmission. This is a public health threat that needs to be taken seriously. However, there are multiple factors in an equation like this; eliminating doula support directly impacts and immediately harms patients.

I love how the DC Birth Doulas group showed transparency by publishing a blog post this week sharing the specific Basic Personal Safety and Extra Safety Measures they are already following and says that if necessary, “Our doulas will take and record their temperatures and report any symptoms to the team at the beginning of each call schedule” [link to their article].

6. If you aren’t going to be able to be present with your clients at their births, now it’s more important than ever that you’re educating and preparing them prenatally to advocate for their rights in childbirth.

If you haven’t taken Birth Monopoly’s Know Your Rights course now, drop everything and do it.  There are handouts for your clients they can take right to the hospital with them, as well as great information for both of you.  Another great, bite-size resource for your clients is “3 Things Every Parent Needs to Know About Hospital Birth,” a 30-minute on-demand video course that covers evidence-based care, hospital policy, consent forms, birth plans, and their basic rights in the hospital.

At Home

 

In my town, we just got the news that school will be canceled for the next three weeks or so, and I’m seeing similar reports from around the country. Seattle is going to be out for six weeks, G*d bless them. I don’t know about you, but the thought of my active 8-year-old home with me bored all day kind of makes me break into a sweat! I wanted to share a couple of wonderful resources I’ve happened across in the last few days.

1. Multiple educational companies are offering free online access right now to help out families dealing with school closures. 

The folks from the Facebook group “Amazing Educational Resources” put together a list of those resources [link to spreadsheet]. I’m not familiar with this Facebook group, but might get it know it very soon!

2. I also came across this incredible list of “Sanity Saving Tips for Reluctant Homeschoolers” (ha! That’s me).

In addition to the list created by the author, Loving Earth Mama, there are more great ideas in the comment thread [link to post]. This is a seriously good list with not only specific ideas about how to spend your time, but how to structure your day, as well.

3. Now is the time to lean into the village. 

I’m lucky to work from home, but I know that’s an unusual situation. I cannot imagine how many families are going to handle having kids out of school for weeks–my heart goes out to folks whose lives are going to be completely turned upside down by this. There is a lot of economic hardship creeping up that is only going to escalate.

I urge you to reach out to neighbors, friends, and even online social circles (like local moms groups) and get creative. In my area, I’m already seeing moms making plans to swap childcare and exchanging ideas about how they plan to cope in the coming weeks. I’m seeing my neighborhood Facebook group starting to coordinate grocery deliveries and other assistance for older people.  It’s a wonderful thing to see. Lean into it! We cannot survive without community.

In Your Business

 

As a business owner, I’m also keeping tabs on what my business mentors, coaches, and other leaders are saying. One thing I’m seeing consistently is to prepare to be flexible, pay attention to good news sources and don’t waste your energy on the rest, and be open to changing your mind as new information emerges. I think that’s great advice. I will add: get ahead of the uncertainty by being transparent about how you are planning for, protecting from, and responding to this extraordinary situation. This builds trust with clients and your community.

This post was originally written as an email message to Birth Monopoly subscribers.  You can get on that list by entering your first name and email address right at the top of my home page [here]–and I’ll also send you a free download of my Quick Guide to Informed Consent and Refusal in Hospital Birth plus a mini-course on consent by email.

We’re in this together!

Do you have any great ideas or resources, or want to share how your business is adapting to the pandemic or your community is responding to hospital policy changes? Tell me in the comments.  I’ll update this post or create a new one.

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Ep. 34 –“I Love My Scar”| Melissa Pizzo on Why Cesarean Moms Need Doulas, Too!

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Melissa Pizzo has had four babies by Cesarean, and four completely different experiences! With her last birth, a scheduled Cesarean, she knew what she wanted and she made sure she got it. That included hiring a doula to hold emotional space for her and her husband in the OR. How ever babies are born, it’s a special and sacred time, and one where the emotional, psychological, and social needs of the person giving birth should be priorities.

In Her Words:

I really embrace that this is what was supposed to be and this is how it is and I have these experiences–like, going from my first cesarean to my fourth cesarean, and seeing the progress and what has changed, I think that that part is where I can be like, oh my gosh, I’ve really grown! And I’ve really been able to voice what I want and what I need. And then being able to feel heard is very important. So those things have happened for me compared to that first birth when I didn’t feel heard and I didn’t feel like I had a voice, and I didn’t feel empowered at all. And I walked away very, very traumatized. To then have a completely different experience on the other side of it with my fourth cesarean.

Hiring a doula for me [in the fourth birth] was really important for several reasons. One was to have someone in the room so that my husband can kind of focus on his own feelings, his own experience of the birth… And I want someone there to say what’s happening, what’s going, and also how are you feeling right now and rubbing my forehead. Just soothing me, while my husband doesn’t have to.

Another thing that our doula did for us is she took pictures, which is amazing. Who doesn’t want pictures of your birth?

There were other moments, too. Before I went into the OR, they were having a hard time getting an IV in. I was getting poked so many times, I was having a real meltdown at that point–like, we are not doing this! And Carrie was there, my doula, to be able to really talk to me and calm me down and she took out a little back massaging thing and definitely calmed my nerves, which was needed at that time.

Some friends, some family members, might say something like, “You should just feel happy because your baby is healthy and nothing was wrong.” And I think that those words are not helpful. Not one bit. Because it is okay to say I’m so happy that I have a baby and I’m also sad that the birth didn’t go the way I wanted it to go.

It’s really, really important that we love our scars. And that we are grateful for them. And that we take care of them. It’s a very tender spot now! It’s definitely still a work in progress, but it’s something I strive for. That I love my scar and that it birthed my babies and that I look at it and I’m like, wow, you are an amazing woman who was able to give birth four times this other way.

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Ep. 35 – From the Doulas: Expert Advice for Birthing Families During the COVID-19 Pandemic

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We are really in the midst of some major disruption for birthing families, in an already fragile healthcare system. In this episode of Birth Allowed Radio, I called on two seasoned doulas and members of the Birth Monopoly “Know Your Rights” community to provide a grounded and strategic perspective for the families who need it most.

Miri Halliday of Spokane, WA is a birth doula and childbirth educator, and Lisa Gould Rubin of Burlington, VT is a doula, childbirth educator, and has had a virtual doula practice for over 10 years.

Together we tackle the tough conversations surrounding doula access to their clients in hospitals and increased pressure on birthing families during the COVID-19 pandemic. Miri and Lisa reveal what they’re telling their families on how to prepare, what to expect at the hospital, how to cope under societal trauma, and what doulas, partners, and birthing mothers can control.

“Everybody’s operating out of this place of fear and scarcity in terms of support and all of this unknown, and it is the worst thing that we want people to be feeling now that they are on the verge of having babies.” – Lisa Gould Rubin

“There are going to be clients who are going to say – ‘I refuse. I’m going to have this baby in the lobby unless my doula comes with me.’” – Miri Halliday

RESOURCES:

Connect with Lisa Gould Rubin at thegoodbirthproject.com (http://thegoodbirthproject.com/), on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/TheGoodBirthProject/) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/GoodBirthProject/).

Follow Miri Halliday at hallidoula.com (https://www.hallidoula.com/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/hallidoula) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_oaky_afterbirth/).

Click here (https://birthmonopoly.com/covid-19/) for all Birth Monopoly COVID-19 resources, including the Hospital Policy Tracker for Doulas and Visitors.

Click here (https://birthmonopoly.com/3-things/) for all you need to know about the updated Birth Monopoly course, “3 Things Every Parent Needs to Know About Hospital Birth.”

For the latest COVID-19 research and resources from Evidence Based Birth®, including the Virtual Doula Directory, click here (https://evidencebasedbirth.com/covid19/).

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A Midwife Changed My Life

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May 5 is International Day of the Midwife.

I remember my very first visit to the obstetrician.  I was young and naïve and alone, and a nurse laughed at me because I didn’t know I was supposed to get dressed after the doctor left the room.  I’d never been before, and no one told me what to do, and I was almost in tears when I left.  My teenage pride was hurt.  That woman had looked right at me and laughed.

It was more than 13 years later that I had an emergency appointment with the midwife who would take everything I’d internalized about birth, my body, and my responsibility as a woman—and dump it on its head.  She would do it by allowing me dignity, respecting me, and, most of all, by showing me compassion.

I was 41 weeks, 6 days pregnant with my first baby, and healthier than I’d ever been.  That morning, I’d been told by a different provider that I must be induced the same night because my pregnancy could not go one day past 42 weeks.  And because the hospital couldn’t fit me on their schedule the day I hit 42 weeks, I needed to come in the night before.

This was devastating to me.  I’d come a long, long way from requesting a Cesarean at my first prenatal appointment to realizing how important a natural, unmedicated birth was to me and my baby.  Reading Peggy Vincent’s Baby Catcher (short stories from a homebirth midwife in California during the 1970s) helped to chip away at the paradigm of birth I’d held my whole life: one long, out-of-control rollercoaster of pain, trauma, and humiliation—on one’s back, in a bed, in a hospital, under direction.

Good God, I thought as I read this book, look at these women having babies in these absurd circumstances, on their own terms, and, wow, how different each one is!  These women weren’t checking themselves into institutions to be delivered of their babies by strangers.  They were actively giving birth to their babies.

That was something I very much wanted to do.

When I was confronted, then, with what seemed like the door slamming shut on my natural birth plan, I decided I had to know if waiting just one more day was a possibility.  It could mean the difference between a painful, invasive induction and something more peaceful.  That Saturday afternoon, I managed to get in touch with a midwife who agreed to see me for a second opinion.

Melissa Hall Courtney, Cristen, and Henry, at an awards ceremony for Melissa / Photo credit: Mark Mahan / https://markmahan.com

Melissa examined me with a care, patience, and gentleness I’d never experienced in a medical setting.  I saw her wince at my own sharp intake of breath.  She explained everything she was seeing and feeling as she saw and felt it.  Then, she talked to me for almost half an hour about my options, folded her hands, and waited for my decision.

It was almost too much for me.  I had literally never been placed firmly in charge of my own body by a health professional.  There were no scare tactics or ultimatums; it was simply, “Here’s the information—all of the information.  Now what shall we do?”  It was the first time I’d really been given that sort of responsibility.  The dynamic was so different from anything I could remember having experienced with a care provider.   This woman wasn’t there to manage me.  She considered me capable and worthy of making my own decisions.

Most of all, though, Melissa showed me compassion.  She saw a human being in distress, not a liability risk or a scheduling problem.  I needed help and she was able to help, and that was all that mattered.  The value she placed on my body, on the sacredness of my first birth, and my right to make my own decisions carries forward to this day.

On that day, it was the respect she showed me that gave me the courage to make probably the most important decision I’ve ever made.  I left the provider who gave me only one option, for the provider who allowed me all of my options and showed me compassion and respect.

It was after dusk when I got home from that appointment, and I went into labor before dawn.  I went back to Baby Catcher for more courage.  A note in my journal from that morning reads, “Thoughts: All the women who have done this before me.”

Ten hours later, I gave birth to my baby, naturally and unmedicated, no complications. Melissa caught him.  I pulled him up to me and cut his cord.  It was the single most strengthening experience of my life.

It wasn’t so much that I gave birth “according to plan,” but that someone in what I perceived as a position of authority handed my power back to me.  A midwife showed me that the choice was mine and always had been. I have carried that new feeling of trust in myself into parenting and even into a new career.

I decided after that day that every woman should have that opportunity. Birth matters. Our introductions to our babies matter.  Our bodies have value.

No one should ever stand in the way of a woman coming into her own strength as a mother, in the act that makes her one.

This article was originally published elsewhere in 2013.  It’s a little outdated, but we thought it was worth a reshare on this International Day of the Midwife.

 

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Ep. 36 – Giving Birth in 1979 | Michelle Pascucci (Cristen’s Mom)

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As I celebrated my birthday this month, I realized I had never really talked to my mother about my own birth story. Join me in reliving that experience with my mom, Michelle Pascucci, as she recalls what it was like to give birth – and feed a newborn – in 1979.  Yes, that’s us in the photo!

While she had a great experience with childbirth education (I had no idea she did Lamaze!), there were times in the hospital she wished she was provided more guidance.

“When they said ‘do you want an epidural?’ I’m familiar with it, but don’t know what’s going to happen. And so when I got numb, then I’m realizing ‘oh, that’s what the epidural does.’”

As my mom and I delved into some family history, I also discovered some fascinating details about my maternal grandmother–who was a nurse for 50 years–including her relationship with the healthcare system during her time and some deep trauma that she suffered in her relationship with doctors.

“My mom gave herself to her work in the health department – she did it the way she had always done it – but she carried that heaviness of not being able to reconcile his death along with vowing never to work in a hospital again.”

RESOURCES:

This program is supported by Attorney Susan Jenkins, specializing in business, governmental, and political issues related to birthing rights and the practice of midwifery. Reach her at 866-686-1348.

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Black Lives Matter.

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To those of you who are tired, traumatized, and grieving, we send out love from the Birth Monopoly team. The U.S. has had a reckoning coming for a long time. It is our hope that justice, healing, and CHANGE will be the result.

I want to express my admiration and gratitude for Black birth workers who have been and are in the trenches supporting clients in a racist system, modeling advocacy and self-care, and blazing trails for a revolution. I wish you pockets of rest.

If you are white, the rest of this message is specifically for you.

I keep hearing people ask, what can I do?? The good news is, Black-run organizations and Black individuals are the experts in how to serve their communities and are already doing it. So, one of the most direct ways for White birth workers to support communities that have been systematically disenfranchised is financially–and I encourage you to consider setting up your gift as a monthly donation.

Recurring income makes a big difference to the sustainability of an organization; it helps keep cash flow stable and doesn’t require the resources it takes to run periodic fundraising or product sales. Birth Monopoly has added a monthly recurring donation to Black Mamas Matter Alliance and I urge you to do the same, for BMMA or any other cause.

Doula Carrie Murphy started this partial list (and people are adding to it) of Black-centered birth justice causes you can donate to. Please do what you can.

Reminder to white people:
You will continue to mess up re racism. So continue to be teachable, open to correction from POC, and vigilantly monitor yourself for defensiveness and white fragility.
You never “arrive” as an ally, you must continually *practice* allyship.

@itsjacksonbbz on Twitter, March 19, 2019

It took me several years of learning about racism and white privilege before I was willing to speak about it publicly even a little bit. And then I did and I immediately messed up. And that sucked and it was embarrassing and hard. So I stopped for a while and learned more. Messed up again. Kept talking about it while I learned some more.

Rinse, repeat, right through to today…

There is no way around this. As White people, we don’t reach a point of complete enlightenment one day and suddenly say and do everything just right.

So, as a White person to other White people, I want to say: you must remain teachable. Commit to being teachable. It is a long, long process to not only learn the “facts” about systemic racism, but how racism lives inside you.

I want to share with you one way in which I realized my own white supremacy was coming out, just last week.

I feel pretty clear about my boundaries when it comes to obstetric violence and the people harmed by it. Sometimes, people come on the Birth Monopoly Facebook page, for example, and make a comment like “I mean, is this abuse even real? There are two sides to every story.” I am very comfortable saying, “This kind of comment is insensitive to traumatized folks and will not be tolerated.”

I don’t feel any need to convince those people or argue with them.

But I noticed my boundaries are much softer when it comes to comments related to racism. I feel the need to spend time explaining and informing and discussing–even when it’s clear they are there to argue and not to learn. I am much more likely to prioritize the “educational” needs of the uninformed/racist commenter than the needs of people reading along at home who are harmed and traumatized by the attitudes and actions of people who don’t “get” racism.

That right there is a part of white supremacy–centering the needs or feelings of a racist White person over the person who is actually affected by racism! That was my own white supremacy popping up.

I want to share that story for two reasons:

1) for transparency. White folks, we have to be willing to make mistakes and course correct and just keep going. You will definitely make mistakes. Own up, learn, and get back on the horse.

2) to let you know our new policy that if someone makes a comment on our social media platforms indicating they don’t understand racism (for example, “I don’t see color”), we will no longer engage them there. Instead, we will direct that person to resources (suggested by this community!) where they can decide how much work they want to put into educating themselves, rather than engage in public discussion that might make Black, Indigenous, or People of Color feel less welcome or valued. If they don’t take on that work and they continue to make comments about how they don’t understand racism, those comments will be deleted and they will be banned.  See our policies here.

One of the first resources we suggest is this compilation of anti-racism resources. From “I don’t see color” to “It’s not my fault I’m white” to “How can I be white and anti-racist?” it’s organized by the stage of your journey. Where do you fall on this list?

Thank you for being here and learning with me.

Love,
Cristen

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